What Is Like Living In A Hot Country?

Life is more than the cold that we experience everyday, time to look for the heat

Are you tired of the day to day living when it comes to dragging yourself through the snow in order to get to work or school? Do you dream of taking a breath of (warm) fresh air, and of dropping everything and going to live in a sunny location? This article is definitely for you as it will give you all of the information that you need. Brad Roemer did it and has been living in sunny California for decades!! If he can do it, you can do it too. Do not limit yourself to the cold temperatures that you have to deal with on a regular basis.

How It All Began

In the movie “Overpriced”, with Audrey Tautou and Gad Elmaleh, one of the characters ( who happens to be a very rich and prosperous businessman who goes down to a luxury hotel on the Côte d’Azur) says: “It has been three years since I have not seen the rain “.

This response got me into tears of laughter and especially provoked in me to reflect on my current situation and how long I planned on staying this way. I said to myself that he must be very rich to have the opportunity to live a life away from the rain or snow in the sun all year round.

The good news is that this is not the case: there is actually no need to be ridiculously wealthy in order to live in the sun. Just be smart and create something for yourself.

Today, I am anything but full of aces. I still have my regular day to day struggles and hard times. The good thing is that I created a way of life that allows me to travel permanently. In the event that I wish to seclude myself from the rain and snow, I can literally spend three to five years without evening seeing any traces of precipitation, provided I am at the right destination and at the right time.

How did I go about it? It’s simple on paper: I became nomadic, I travel according to my desires (and seasons, so: if the weather irritates me, I change locations all together).

 

First Step:  Be As Free As A Bird

A lot of people will say that becoming a nomad is not so easy: how do you work? Where do you end up living? How would it work altogether? If all of these questions are interesting to you, I invite you to read this long article, where I explain in more detail my background, and where I encourage you to do the same thing.

Basically, to get a better understanding of the foundations it is about having an independent job that does not require you to move around physically. You must avoid at all costs jobs where you will have to meet your customers face-to-face. The Internet is ideal for this: with a computer and a connection, you can do a lot of jobs without having to meet someone.

 

Second Step: Finding A Place To Live

You want to live in a location that is comfortable but yet affordable for you? I have excellent news for you: You can live anywhere on this planet! When you look well, there is at least half of the world where the weather is nice and warm all year round. So you are spoiled for choice as far as the destination is concerned.

That being said, I am well aware that the sun is not the only criterion for settling down: professional opportunities, the cost of living, ease of integration, are all other factors at least as important as the weather. With the innovation of Airbnb as well as hostels, it has opened up a variety of different location possibilities that you can explore at any time.

There are just some basic steps to finding your comfort zone in a new and sunny country

Speaking Effectively

Speaking in front of people without the fear of making errors

Regardless of how old you, where you come from or what experiences you have had in life communicating effectively is a skill that can very easily be discovered and implemented in one’s life. With a little confidence in yourself as well as some understanding of the basics when it comes to communication, Brad Roemer is convinced that anyone can project their message in a clear and concise manner to be understood and well respected.

 

There Is Always The Right Time For Everything

As the saying goes, there is a time for everything and communication is no exception. Avoid addressing important topics such as finances or weekly planning at the end of the day. Few people will be happy to solve major problems when they are prone to fatigue. Instead, treat these major topics in the morning or afternoon when people are alert, available, and more likely to be able to respond with clarity.

There Is Always The Right Place for Everything

Try at all cost to choose the right place when trying to bring up a conversation that is important to you. In the event that you have to announce bad news (such as a death or breakup), do not make such an announcement in a public area with colleagues or other people around you. Choosing the right place is very crucial as it brings value or diminishes the importance to what you will be saying. Be respectful and attentive to the person that you are announcing and communicating privately to. This will also give you the opportunity to have a dialogue with the person about the communicated factor whiles ensuring that the exchange takes place in a proper manner.
If you are performing in front of a group of people, be sure to check the sound systems in advance and practice speaking clearly and concisely. Use a microphone if necessary to make sure your audience can hear you.

Try at all cost to choose the right place when trying to bring up a conversation that is important to you. In the event that you have to announce bad news (such as a death or breakup), do not make such an announcement in a public area with colleagues or other people around you. Choosing the right place is very crucial as it brings value or diminishes the importance to what you will be saying. Be respectful and attentive to the person that you are announcing and communicating privately to. This will also give you the opportunity to have a dialogue with the person about the communicated factor whiles ensuring that the exchange takes place in a proper manner.
If you are performing in front of a group of people, be sure to check the sound systems in advance and practice speaking clearly and concisely. Use a microphone if necessary to make sure your audience can hear you.

There Is Always The Right Way To Say Everything

The timing is right and the location is right as well. All that is left is for your message to be projected in a clear and concise manner. First, you have to know what it is that you are trying to say; let the message be clearly structured and organized in your mind. This process should be completed before you even attempt to express the idea(s). In the event that the topic is very important to you and brings up a lot of passion and emotion, it would be even more important to structure what you will be saying as the emotions may destabilize you and prevent you from saying everything that you want to actually say.
A good general rule is to choose three main points and keep your communication focused on it. In this way, if the subject deviates, you will be able to return to one or more of these three key points without feeling overwhelmed and sidetracked. Writing down these key points (if appropriate) can also help as some people are more visual and need to reference their speech.

 

These three important steps will get you on your way to speaking effectively when infront of people. Everyone happens to be shy at times but if it was able to work with Brad it can work with anyone as he also had some issues with speach that he quickly got over with these steps.

Brad Roemer Talks About Family Dinner

The Importance of Family dinners

The Past

In days gone by, people used to gather around the dinner table and shut off the television and all electronic distractions. In fact, when Brad Roemer was younger they did not even answer the telephone when it rang. Mind you, this was in the days before call waiting, caller ID, and answering machines.  When the phone would go unanswered during dinner, you had no idea who was actually calling, and you would have to call all of your friends to see who called you, but we digress. Breakfast is always said to be the most important meal of the day, but dinner has its claim to fame too. Dinner is the meal that gets people together and having a family dinner really warms the heart (and stomach, literally). How can we get back to having family dinners and stop the digression of the family unit? We have some ideas that Brad gave us.

 

Logistical Nightmare

In a recent study, 80% of people surveyed stated that the main reason for not having a family sit down dinner was due to not being able to plan it around the family schedules. For example, the kids get home between 4 to 4:30 pm, Mom gets home around 5:45 pm and Dad does not get home until just before 7:00 pm. While it may seem that dinner could just be planned for the minute that Dad gets home, we forgot about one important factor – afterschool activities (e.g. band, cheerleading, soccer, etc.). This is where the logistical nightmare starts. The family has to eat when they can and therefore no longer has the ability to sit down as a unit and eat dinner. There is a solution, though.

 

Moving Forward

It would be too much to say, skip the extracurricular activities or dinner all together. Perhaps we do not have to have every dinner together at the same time. Maybe ordering out might help. The microwave has been saving people time for years now, but is it relevant for us today? The answer is all and none of the above. There is, however, the possibility for compromise. Let us consider the possibility to get the family dinner back, by taking baby steps. So, this Saturday, Brad Roemer suggests you have a family dinner. If you cannot do it on Saturday due to work schedule, do it on a night that no one in the family has things to do. Essentially, start with one night and start from there. Remember, Rome was not built in one day, and neither will having regular family dinners be that easy.

 

Importance

Sitting down for a family dinner, as Brad did in his younger years, is very important for the family. It keeps the parents and the children in good communication. Communication between family members is mentally satisfying. It creates stronger bonds and allows kids the ability to learn both good manners and emotional regulation. So, when you do get a chance to have that dinner, sit the family down, turn off the television, do not answer the telephone (at least these days you will know who you have to call back), and have a healthy dinner with the family!

Getting Your School In Order Before Returning To your Routine

SMall Steps To Clearing My Room After The Holidays

A New Year, A New Look!

It is the beginning of a new year! We meet our new year with great optimism and hope for the coming year. We have gone ahead and written our new years resolution and vow to stick to the resolution. All of the guests from far and close have returned to their home and you are left alone at home (finally). Where do you start? How do you get yourself reorganized so that you can get back into the routine that you initially had? Brad Roemer has just the right tips for you to avoid feeling overwhelmed and ineffective. There is nothing worse than “tidying” your home for hours to only realized that you did not actually progress as you should. You must have a plan in place in order to avoid going around in circles aimlessly putting things into certain parts of your home.

It marks a very important time of the year, as you would have had some time off and are now falling back into the routine whiles also setting long-term and short-term goals. This is a great opportunity for you to revamp your home and even add subtle details to enhance the appearance if it fits within your budget. It is a great opportunity to sort and organize all of the materials and items in the home in order to ensure a strong commencement of the year.

Where To Start

Let us be studious this year. Begin your cleaning session by reviewing the work areas of each family member. This can simply not be overemphasized; a messy office cannot contribute to true concentration. The individual will get distracted with all of the items that are on the desk and will end up not studying or reading as they should. Though it is your office space you must remove all of the items that are not necessary. Invest in new shelving space in order to keep your paperwork and books neatly organized. You may want to consider bringing your items to a storage area if it cannot fit on your desk. Do not attempt to cram everything in one space when you see that everything is not fitting.

Storage space will only be effective when it is emptied and cleaned before usage. The main purpose of cleaning your home is to put everything in place and to give a feeling of serenity and peace in the home. Lighten your mind by emptying all the closets of the house to sort the clothes (too small, too damaged, to give …).
Take the opportunity to store any summer clothes that may have been lingering around and put on winter clothes.
Tip: Also sort out children’s toys that often take up a lot of space. “Declutter for better enjoyment”, here is your new adage!

Make it a point to globally organize the home with the rest of the family so that nobody feels left out.  It is important to set a cleaning schedule for the family as well as it also teaches them how to be structured in this world.

Getting Ready For The Holidays

How to get yourself and your home ready for the holiday period

In less than a week, it will be Christmas! Last year you were a bit last minute when it came to your Christmas prep so let us try to do things differently, shall we? With less than a week to go, you are bordering on the “last minute” line so let us make an action plan with Brad Roemer that will cause us less embarrassment and will put both yourself and your guests at ease.

What Will You Need For Christmas Preparations?

The most organized Christmas planners carry a “Christmas notebook” wherever they go. They take note of all of the good ideas found in magazines or on television (they spend countless of hours on Pinterest and Instagram), recipes, to-do shopping lists, and have a lot of tasks to remember. Why not use this approach? How about making specific lists for all your tasks, your parties, the purchases that you need to make and more? You can make lists on paper or directly on your phone (you can even share them with your entourage!). Store them all in one place so you do not lose them!

In fact, the first step in this holiday planning is to find the tool that will help you get organized! Thus, you will not forget anything and will not feel overwhelmed at any point and time.

 

Purchase Your Christmas Gifts In Advance!

It is said everywhere: we must start our shopping early. But as the tale of the hare and the turtle reminds us, “There is no point in running, you have to start at the right time”. You must, therefore, know what the ultimate goal actually is before know how to attain that goal. Once you have created a menu for yourself and guests then you can go into the details as to what will be required for the meals. Take note of who you want to give a gift to whiles budgeting for each person. Find suggestions from friends or family or even through online reviews whiles targeting the shops that you will be visiting. It will definitely give you a better idea as to what to look for when shopping. In the event that you do not like Christmas shopping due to the hassle, then you can do it online. Note however that if you do place an order at this time online you will not receive a response until way after new years. Shopping online is a very easy process as the supplier will bring the product right to your doorstep. No need to go through the hassle of searching for that gift and waiting in long lineups; everything gets delivered to you directly.

 

Double Check The Decorations Within Your Home

When you are ready to hosts your guests to make sure that all of your decors inside and outside of your home is on point. It can be a bit frustrating to notice that the lights in your Christmas tree or the lights around your windows are not working very well when you know that it could have easily been avoided by simply checking beforehand. Perform some basic tests on all of the lights around the house and the connections to make sure that they will last during your evening.

Choosing Your Holiday Menu

Finally; about the menu. This is probably one of the biggest sources of stress caused to those in the kitchen during the holiday period. You want everything to be perfect, you want to please everyone, you try to satisfy all expectations (yours and those of others) and all this could even lead you to sleepless nights! Look at the situation with realism; do not supersede your general expectations. What is absolutely necessary? What can be delegated? How can you reach a compromise?

Stock Up On Your Christmas Supplies

There are plenty of items that you can buy in advance. You can also organize a day of cooking and freeze everything that is freezable. Try to purchase everything in advance to avoid the last minute corner store shopping that will increase your bill instantaneously. Do not forget to pack napkins, paper towels, toilet papers, foil, etc. The sooner you start these purchases, the more you will save (you will have time to enjoy good sales!)! In addition, you will not end up with a salty bill in mid-December!

 

These steps would be the nitty-gritty of the tasks to accomplish for a successful  Christmas dinner. Do not forget that you also have to fill out your Christmas cards and wrap your Christmas gifts as well. when following these steps by Brad you will get the successful evening that you desire!

Perfumes To Set The Right Atmosphere Within Your Home

Do it yourself fragrances for the holidays

During the holiday period, we absolutely love when it feels like Christmas! The sweet smell of spices, pine, vanilla, cinnamon, oranges or gingerbread cookies set the right tone for the festivities. All of the different aromas will bring us back to our fondest memories. In the case of some like Brad Roemer; peeling a tangerine in December makes me want to decorate my house and listen to the most beautiful Christmas songs.

Why not bring a touch of magic to your home with homemade smells? Avoid commercially available aerosol chemicals and make these simple, natural recipes yourself. In addition, these small creations make excellent gifts for your friends and loved ones.

Apple Fragrance

This is a very simple recipe that smells amazing as it cleans the air and makes a visually appealing decoration as well.

On a large orange, lemon or grapefruit, prick cloves to make a nice pattern. Use fifty or more clothes.

Then wrap a beautiful Christmas ribbon on it. All you have to do is hang your tangy balls in your tree, your entrance, the wardrobe or on a doorknob. This orange will leave a beautiful natural aroma for a whole month.

 

Club Of Christmas Aromas

In a pot or a saucepan, simmer your favorite Christmas ingredients. I would recommend that you make a mixture of cranberries, mint,  fresh rosemary, orange peels, lemon peels, cinnamon sticks, and cloves. Add water to cover the ingredients. Return water when the level is too low. Let it simmer for some few hours on low heat. The idea is to curl up in her favorite blanket as the snow falls and have your favorite Christmas movie on TV. The fresh and unique scent will spread throughout your kitchen and will give your evening a magical smell. You may repeat this process as many times as you wish. Note: you can incorporate the ingredients that stimulate your sense of smell such as vanilla, nutmeg, cardamom, ginger, etc. You can also add a few drops of your favorite essential oils like citrus, vanilla, pine cinnamon or more.

 

Pine & Cinnamon

Find some beautiful pine cones.  You may do so by walking in the forest or at the park near your home. Another alternative could be at your local dollar or even at a decor boutique. On a baking sheet, place the casseroles and put in the oven at 200 degrees Celsius for one hour. Once cooked and cooled, pour a few drops of cinnamon essential oil over the casseroles and place them in a plastic bag. Keep in the bag a few days so that the smell soaks the bark of the casseroles. You can perfume your casseroles with your favorite essential oils as well. Put the casseroles in a nice container, a jar, a burlap bag with a beautiful ribbon or as an ornament in your tree or even in your Christmas wreath. The smell will just come gushing through!

The Mixture

The goal for this fragrance is to mix spices, pines and dried fruits in a nice container in order to create your favorite aromas. You are essentially the creator as well as the master and chef. You decide what works and what does not work for you, you decide what fragrance you prefer over the other. For dried fruits put your dry apple slices and oranges in the oven. Slice your fruit as finely as possible so that they can dry faster. Cook an hour and a half in the oven at 200 degrees Celsius. In a vase, jar or bag, place your fruit, sprig of fir or cedar, cinnamon sticks, star anise, cranberries and even a cinnamon casserole. Decorate your jar or bag with a nice ribbon or other and place your potpourri in your entry or bathroom.

These are just some few tips that Brad has in store for you in terms of setting the right atmosphere for your home this holiday season through different frgrances.

What Is Thanksgiving?

Thanksgiving a season to be thanksful

How It All Started 

Where does the tradition of Thanksgiving come from? In fact, all over the world, we celebrate this harvest season. Dates and customs, however, differ from country to country.

She is on everyone’s lips and it is with enthusiasm that everyone prepares to celebrate it with dignity during the last long weekend of the year.  In the event that Thanksgiving evokes for many family feasts, it marks a very beautiful ancestral tradition that has evolved tremendously.

Thanksgiving was established as a holiday, the last of the year before the Christmas and New Years holidays, to thank God for the abundance of harvest and, by extension, the happiness received during the past year. Thanksgiving, in North America, is on everyone’s mind every fourth week of November. Individuals within large families such as families of Brad Roemer will sit around a huge table to give thanks for all that was accomplished during the year.

A Religious Tradition From Europe

The origins of Thanksgiving in North America are usually traced back to a dinner held in 1578 by English explorer Martin Frobisher, who wanted to thank God for a successful journey and for a great health. This supper was thus strongly inspired by the harvest festivals celebrated by the European peasants.

But the tradition of Thanksgiving then takes very different paths in Canada and the United States, where the symbolism of Thanksgiving, imported by the Mayflower Pilgrim Fathers, had significant and influential values that of the first harvest, in 1621, and therefore that of the survival of the young colony. Another difference: Thanksgiving is celebrated later in the United States in comparison to its Canadian friends across the border.

Canadian Thanksgiving does not claim such historical roots and is more borrowed, in its present form, than that of its American neighbor. Thus, even though it is widely celebrated today, especially among Anglophones, it remains less rooted in popular Canadian and Quebec traditions.

Thanksgiving and Sharing

Thanksgiving is now a pretext for great meetings with family and friends, around iconic dishes – and this time well and truly pan-North American. Traditionally, turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes and cranberry sauce are served. Unlike Christmas, we also find autumn vegetables such as carrots and squash, as well as the famous pumpkin pie. The American Pilgrim Fathers had even invited a hundred representatives of the Wampanoag indigenous tribe to thank them for their help in sowing and harvesting corn.

A Cultural Phenomenon
These customs and their original meaning sometimes tend to fade, over the years, to give way to new traditions, again very different in Canada and the United States.

The long 3 day weekend that is during the last days of the year, marks the occasion, for some to go and enjoy a breath of fresh air. Hiking in the mountains, visiting the chalet and key fields are all opportunities to take off and nurture the secret hope of observing the colors of autumn appear on the trees.

In the United States, the issues have moved on a very different terrain. One month before Christmas, the highly anticipated Black Friday and Cyber Monday, which frame Thanksgiving, keep the country in suspense.

Winter Is Coming Up? Make Sure To Protect Your Plants!

Protecting your plants once it starts getting cold

 

Frost, wind, and cold are the main enemies of plants during the winter period and carry as many dangers that threaten their growth and good development. How would one protect them effectively and succeed in their wintering? Here’s all you need to know from Brad Roemer to take care of plants during the winter season, from houseplants to vegetable gardens.

Which plants are concerned?

As the cold season comes along, the development of deciduous plants stops; they enter a kind of hibernation. This, however, is not the case for persistent. The latter are therefore exposed to bad weather in the winter months, such as frosts and can be fatal to the plant. It is therefore important to protect evergreen shrubs, but also young plantations, that is to say, up to a year or so. Potted plants are also very much fragile as their roots are less protected than when in the ground.

Why protect your plants in winter?
Cold first, snow and frost too. In fact, the drop in temperatures will hinder the good development of plants, which, since their sap came down in late fall, are dormant, a state of life slowed down. In addition, with diseases reaching a peak at the end of the summer, if the plants fall asleep, they will not be able to fight the infection during this very harsh period and will usually fall apart during the winter season. It is therefore essential to take care of the plants and protect them so that they can blossom again in the springtime.

When should I protect my plants?

When winter is approaching, you are afraid that the plants in the garden will be damaged by the cold. However, it is necessary to wait for the first frosts so that the plants are prepared for sometimes negative temperatures and go dormant. Thus, trees, shrubs, and roses need to be exposed to temperatures between 0 ° C and -10 ° C a few days: cold and frost are indeed important for lignification (plant cells are transformed into wood ) and limit the appearance of harmful insects.

Ideally, you would want to put in place the different protections as late as possible in the season (mid-November) and remove them as soon as the temperatures rise just a little.

 

When will you find them? Similarly, we should not wait until it is too hot to remove the protections. At the first thaws of the ground (March or April according to the climates), you can discover them, except if the temperatures are too unstable between the day and the night. Indeed, a protection maintained too long may favor a rotting of the plant.

Note that you can give a little boost to the plants at the end of the summer, with a dose of fertilizer and dress them in a wintering veil for example, which will hold until the end of February.

Last tip: never leave the plants unattended or cared for during the winter period. It is not because they are sheltered under their wintering veil that they must be abandoned.

Halloween Ideas For Your Home

Home decor for halloween

It Is Halloween

Today is Halloween and we must admit that the sweets have already drained our wallets sufficiently and that we may not be able to afford extravagant exterior home decor for the little ones passing by to “trick-or-treat”. Every year, it’s a pleasure to receive little children in disguise to offer them some treats on Halloween. The outdoor setting is a nice invitation to the little in order to encourage them to knock on the door and make their request known. The decorations for the house does not have to be expensive either. Depending on the age of your children and their understanding of Halloween, the decor can range from fun to quite disgusting and scary. Here are some decoration ideas that Brad Roemer recommends for Halloween when on a tight budget. What is most exciting is that everything can be created with items found at home or purchased at a dollar store.

 

Some Ideas For Halloween

With these simple and lively steps that can be followed, your children and neighbors would be more than happy to knock on your door.

In order to get there, you will first need some pumpkins to empty and decorate with your family so that you can enjoy this nice party together.
Here are some examples of decorations that you can reproduce at home:

  • With a carving knife, you can cut your pumpkin and decorate it with simple accessories that are available near you. You may embellish your pumpkin with red radishes and sit them on four logs.
  • It’s easy to set the tone for your decor; you need to be creative and let yourself go with as much fantasy as possible. Feel free to use beautiful ribbons or different fabrics: they add a lot of punch and are always very welcoming on the doorstep to receive parents and children.
  • There are also some flower pots from past seasons that can be used. When modified they can very well be used without incurring too many expenses.
    You can add some lanterns and some decorations to give them a new look.
  • To give life and character to your decor, it is essential to group everything together. Do not disperse the decorations here and there but have an actual plan as to where you want to place the items.

These are some basic tips that Brad has in order to accessorize your home and set the right atmosphere for the children that will be coming to ask you for sweets. Make sure to greet your kind guests with a smile and do not forget to dress up as well!

 

How To Be Assertive The Right Way

How to gain the confidence to express yourself at all times

What Does Being Assertive Actually Mean

Firstly, we must ask ourselves what the actual meaning of “being assertive” or “being confident” means.  Understanding oneself is usually the starting point when it comes to overcoming insecurities and fears. We often know a lot when it comes to our personalities, our characters, our ideas; but unfortunately, these known elements cannot be concretized given the fact that we do not take the time to truly get to know the depth of our beings. Brad Roemer will always say that in order to know oneself, one must pay great attention to what occurs within us. After a specific experience or event, we must take the time to ask ourselves; “What did this experience actually teach me?” This would then enable us to know more about ourselves, our limits and the situations that we do not want to recur. We must also take note as to what actually makes us feel good and what brings our spirits up. When we know what our boundaries are and what makes us feel good in our spirit then we will definitely avoid the situations that bring negative reactions and encourage the circumstances that bring forth positivity to our lives.

What Are The Effects Of Ignoring Your True Feelings?

The first disadvantage of not being true to oneself and not expressing how one truly feels is that it brings frustration and emptiness. It unfortunately also brings a lack of confidence in oneself as you do not have that strength to own up to your feelings and express what is going on inside. It puts you in a state of internal conflict as you constantly shut down the inner voice that wants to come out. The quality and depth of interpersonal relationships are also greatly affected given the fact that the outside world will eventually realize that the foundation of the relationship is not solid and is not based on truth and consistency. When one acts by being assertive and expressive of the true feelings held within, our motivation is channeled in one direction; towards a specific goal. When we act to please others we scatter and miss our goal. It is very uncomfortable to be loved for what you are not. To please others because we are “nice” (for example, by not opposing or challenging others with our own reflections), is to encourage people to love that image of ourselves without actually getting to know our real selves. It is taking the risk of not feeling oneself for what we truly are. This, in turn, will contribute to the insecurities that drive us to lose that assertiveness.

 

How To Be Assertive In A Difficult World

We must begin by knowing what our comfort zone is and then we can establish a hierarchy of situations that we find are problematic, from the least difficult to the most painful in our lives. What matters most is that we tackle those problems.  We must surround ourselves with people who constantly reassure us and remind us of the positive image of ourselves. We cannot surround ourselves with negative and domineering people that will only bring our esteem lower.  In this respect, alliances, partnerships, and group strength are essential. Also, the focus on achieving concrete goals – rather than the dichotomy between being “accepted” or “rejected” – helps to build confidence. The good news is that it is never too late to build confidence in yourself. To be oneself is not a revolution, but an evolution.

Here are a few concrete examples of how to assert ourselves one small step at a time:

  • Return a cold dish to the server whiles telling them that you want a new hot dish.
  • Refraining from purchasing a pair of shoes under pressure even if it means that you refuse the 15th pair that was brought to you by the sales clerk
  • Demanding a raise from your boss whiles explaining to him or her that you work harder and consistently in comparison to your colleagues